(Where Teenage-Relationships became mere requirements for Social Acceptability/Acceptance)
Filipino Philosophy
David Judd B. Novilla
Mangingihod
SVFS
This paper aims to discuss the Social Acceptability in the realms of Teenage-Relationship. Moreover, this would tell how relationships among teen-agers became mere requirements for the sake of social acceptance. This topic, is not taken or viewed in general, but only to those of my contemporary teenagers I have met before and up to my present life. Thus, this paper is quite personal observation only on how teenagers act or react towards social acceptance in the context of being in relationships.
To start with, being socially acceptable is a big thing nowadays. It seems that this has always been the case because fitting in with the right people has always been an important part of life for many centuries. In the mode of being teenager, experiencing different kinds of lifestyles, social acceptability became a pivotal part of their lives. In a time when appearances and classes held so much sway, to be socially unacceptable was a terrible thing to be.
Now, the attitude of “Maria Clara” can be seen not so often. An attitude where teaches many virtues. The Filipino context of dating and getting into relationships were swiftly shifted to instant partnerships, simply a requirement. I have met a mother who shared to me about her Grade-VI daughter. She caught her little princess having boyfriend as early as this age. She began to warn her daughter to stop it, for it is not yet the right time to enter such relationship. “I know it is part of their growing. I am not forbidding her, but I want her to realize to take time and not to be pressured about it.” The mother said to me. Her daughter was crying for almost three days because of this, “My best friend has, my cousin has, my seatmate has, and all girls in school have their own! Why can’t I mother? I don’t want to be different from them!” This was the answer of the daughter to her mother. The situation I presented manifests how young generation acts towards relationships. They thought all the while, because majority got each individual partner, they are eagerly required as well to have in order to be accepted to the group.
Another story but same topic, last Christmas break I got time to talk with my childhood friend. She shared that for her entire college life as a third year student, she never been in relationship with a boy. She is a “No-Boyfriend-Since-Birth” as well and I wonder why, for the fact that she’s physically pretty and very nice. But the point here is I can see in her eyes that it is just alright for her. Without any rush and pressure, she is happy. Although most of her friends and classmates found their partners, she told me that it doesn’t matter. Only that there are moments when she see couples dating around, she feels “jealous”.
Spare those ones who wisely and sincerely decided to enter a relationship in the name of love. Of course, to tell where and when the perfect moment to have is unpredictable. No one can prophesize the brilliant timing. However, the issue here is not about the perfect and the twinkling moment when and where to be in love, but let us not just imprison ourselves to a situation where we forced and pressured ourselves to be in relationships just because majority of our peers are engaging with this.
To end this, it is very particular to us be socially accepted. It is a joy that gives us pleasure; however in seeking this we might put ourselves in pressure. Let us think well before deciding to this kind of acceptance. Remember that true friends would surely accept you whatever and whoever you are. Not only in the context of having boyfriends or girlfriends, but in all aspects especially in the material world. Be with those ones who can say, “I LOVE YOU, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
Filipino Philosophy
David Judd B. Novilla
Mangingihod
SVFS
This paper aims to discuss the Social Acceptability in the realms of Teenage-Relationship. Moreover, this would tell how relationships among teen-agers became mere requirements for the sake of social acceptance. This topic, is not taken or viewed in general, but only to those of my contemporary teenagers I have met before and up to my present life. Thus, this paper is quite personal observation only on how teenagers act or react towards social acceptance in the context of being in relationships.
To start with, being socially acceptable is a big thing nowadays. It seems that this has always been the case because fitting in with the right people has always been an important part of life for many centuries. In the mode of being teenager, experiencing different kinds of lifestyles, social acceptability became a pivotal part of their lives. In a time when appearances and classes held so much sway, to be socially unacceptable was a terrible thing to be.
Now, the attitude of “Maria Clara” can be seen not so often. An attitude where teaches many virtues. The Filipino context of dating and getting into relationships were swiftly shifted to instant partnerships, simply a requirement. I have met a mother who shared to me about her Grade-VI daughter. She caught her little princess having boyfriend as early as this age. She began to warn her daughter to stop it, for it is not yet the right time to enter such relationship. “I know it is part of their growing. I am not forbidding her, but I want her to realize to take time and not to be pressured about it.” The mother said to me. Her daughter was crying for almost three days because of this, “My best friend has, my cousin has, my seatmate has, and all girls in school have their own! Why can’t I mother? I don’t want to be different from them!” This was the answer of the daughter to her mother. The situation I presented manifests how young generation acts towards relationships. They thought all the while, because majority got each individual partner, they are eagerly required as well to have in order to be accepted to the group.
Another story but same topic, last Christmas break I got time to talk with my childhood friend. She shared that for her entire college life as a third year student, she never been in relationship with a boy. She is a “No-Boyfriend-Since-Birth” as well and I wonder why, for the fact that she’s physically pretty and very nice. But the point here is I can see in her eyes that it is just alright for her. Without any rush and pressure, she is happy. Although most of her friends and classmates found their partners, she told me that it doesn’t matter. Only that there are moments when she see couples dating around, she feels “jealous”.
Spare those ones who wisely and sincerely decided to enter a relationship in the name of love. Of course, to tell where and when the perfect moment to have is unpredictable. No one can prophesize the brilliant timing. However, the issue here is not about the perfect and the twinkling moment when and where to be in love, but let us not just imprison ourselves to a situation where we forced and pressured ourselves to be in relationships just because majority of our peers are engaging with this.
To end this, it is very particular to us be socially accepted. It is a joy that gives us pleasure; however in seeking this we might put ourselves in pressure. Let us think well before deciding to this kind of acceptance. Remember that true friends would surely accept you whatever and whoever you are. Not only in the context of having boyfriends or girlfriends, but in all aspects especially in the material world. Be with those ones who can say, “I LOVE YOU, JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
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